Receiving Feedback to Understand and Improve: Don’t Do 1. Ignore the feedback 1. View feedback as an opportunity to obtain useful information for reducing conflict, improving productivity, collaboration, etc. 2. Assume the words are an attack; listen with objectivity 2. Assume feedback is offered with the best intentions 3. Just assume you know what they mean or intend 3. Ask for specifics for [...]
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Giving Feedback: Don’t Do 1. Hint 1. Offer specific behaviors 2. Talk to others about that person 2. Go to the right person (the one involved) 3. Make personality assumptions 3. Offer pinpointed behaviors 4. Words and actions don’t matter 4. Apply congruent words and nonverbals 5. Forget your tone of voice 5. Watch others’ response to your tone; listen to your tone [...]
Here are the remaining pieces of advice and additional from others: Conversation Rule: Let each person talk about the same time. (Example: if there are 4 people, each should get to talk about 25% of the time). If only one person is doing all the talking, 3 others are bored. Don’t tell your friends when you want to buy shoes. Change the oil [...]
Continuing with the Pieces of Advice, here are some more. Do any of these prick your thoughts about giving advice to others? Tell people you love them (only if you mean it). Wear water-proof mascara. Dye your hair roots. Keep friends of all ages. Improve every day (from DeWitt Jones; photographer for National Geographic). Don’t let an old person into your body. Don’t [...]
Several years ago, a girlfriend attended a party of another friend turning the age of 60. She had everything she needed and didn’t want gifts, so we continued to ponder what fun thing we could give her that would be unique. We came up with “60 pieces of advice”. Over the years, we continue to add more. Here are 15 pieces of advice [...]
Minimizing Mistakes One Sunday afternoon, after enjoying time at home, I packed for a two-day workshop in Ottawa Illinois. Although Ottawa is about a two-hour drive, both workshops start early each day and driving back and forth was not effective to be available to the participants. I usually allow time while setting up for each day and finalizing the day for any questions [...]
I Know a Guy…Accountability It took 10 years for my husband and I to agree on hardwood for our home. Of course, that means when we built our humble home we put in carpet for later debates. When you build a home, it is recommended to do the big ticket items in the home when you build. Otherwise, it costs more time and [...]
CLUTTER Microsoft Office now has a function that tracks what you do with your emails and starts moving things normally deleted to clutter without me looking at them. I go looking through it occasionally to see if it’s really something I need to keep or can I just delete (aka as throw away). I haven’t decided if I like it or not, but [...]
1. Look at your current level of control. Last Saturday was a “Family” day for my sister who has terminal cancer. My brother is unable to drive the 10 hours it took us to get there because he too is suffering from cancer. Although he is doing well, there are some limitations. My husband and I knew that our level of control could [...]
“Take Your Stress to Work” Day The 4th Thursday of each April more than 37 million Americans at more than 3.5 million workplaces participate in “Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work” Day. This has been occurring for 21 years according to Carolyn McKuen, President of the Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work Day. She offers some strategies to do before this [...]